i have been married for five years now, i hav two kids and i live in joint family system. my husband is good but he says some very hurtful things when angry which he admits after wards that were wrong and he said only to get back at me. my in-laws are extremely interfering and they start fighting me or simple blame everything on me some how. if some of u are thinking abt their fighting, if i hav a hand in it then i will just say that we have had biggest and nastiest fights over my going to my parents even after weeks etc we cant move out as its out of the ques in eastern families. my husband does support me against my in-laws. so this my background
problem is i hav changed into this horrible person, i use to think good abt everyone, now i don't, i hav developed the biggest anger problem ever and no chance of anger management classes. i use to hav faith in family being there for me, i didnt care wat anyone said abt me and i feel like the most loneliest person in my whole family. Plz help me, change back to my old self .
How to change back in personality before marriage?
you can change back if you truely want that in yourself.
especially if you have realize what caused you to change in the first place.
people will tell you it is hard to change and it can be,
but the first step is to get out of the atmousphere that changed you.
or at least work on it so that you don't fail and and fall backwards when
you work on changing back. How to change back in personality before marriage?
You can't go back. You must evolve into a new, more experienced, person. Start by ignoring those who don't support you and making friends of those who do.How to change back in personality before marriage?
There's nothing like a spouse to put you into a foul, long lasting mood.
Can you move away from your in-laws?
The best way to deal with nasty people is with humor. Even sarcasm. It's hard work, but it can be worth it.
Will that get you to your old self? No. Without support from your husband, it's not going to happen. He's an adult. Ask him if he wants a spouse that's cheerful or a nag. Suggest that he can either support you or watch it happen.
I happen to have the strength of will to be able to deal with my inlaws. It took ten years, but now i'm on friendlier terms with them than my spouse.
How to change back in personality before marriage?
If you can't beat them, join them. Be the best awful person they have ever known. I know it is hard but you need to sink or swim in this case.
You may think you are a horrible person, but sometimes it works.How to change back in personality before marriage?
we don't get to do things over in life focas on dealing with the situation your in not wishing to turn back time to what use to be. Things don't move backwords they go forwords. IT'S best to be fully honest with your hubby let him know all these things that are problems. If he cares nothing that your hurting maybe you need to move out on your own.How to change back in personality before marriage?
You are in a very sad situation, and it seems it is a no win situation. I have to assume you are living with the in laws because of financial or convenience reasons. You are restricted from seeing your parents because of your eastern culture, You stated your husband is good, but says in anger hurtful things to you, but later says they were said to just to GET back at you. Then he is not a good husband if he hurts you, and says later he didn't mean it. It is time to see a counselor, or minister or someone of your faith.How to change back in personality before marriage?
being your old self is what got you into this mess. Learn from this time and adjust. Stay strong as you are and know what is true about you and what things you can do without. Stay up!How to change back in personality before marriage?
You have learned and you cant unlearn. you have experienced and you cant unexperience.
I am so sorry that you are unhappy with your self. You should not be you are hurt and upset.
I am sorry you cant move out.... That sucks. it is hard enough to be marriage wit out have 3 gang up on you in a fight. I would be bitter and mad. I wish that there could be a way for your family unit to move out your husband you and the kids. without interference it MIGHT be better. but it sounds like you are trapped 8(.
Do you live in America? If so take the kids and get the hell out of there, to hell with tradition. How to change back in personality before marriage?
If you want to save your marriage and yourself you need to move out and away from your in laws.
I am assuming that the two of you are adults right? So move out! What is the worst that can happen? Your in laws get angry and blame it on you? They are already doing that. What do you have to lose by leaving?
